Years ago, I got in a fight with a very good friend of mine. We were roommates and I can't even remember what the fight was about. Anyways, it blew up into a bigger thing than it ever should have and we ended up not talking to each other and I moved out. It was bad. We unfriended each other on all social media and it was really awkward when we saw each other in person. Talk about a bad breakup. I always felt bad about how it ended up. I knew I had gone overboard and really screwed up but at the time, I didn't know how to fix it. We parted ways and called it good.
Lately, I have been thinking about this friend a lot. I was pretty sure she still hated me but I wanted to try to catch up with her anyways. Rejection hurts, but not trying at all hurts more so after weeks of working up the courage, I messaged her on Facebook. Minutes after I sent the initial message saying I was sorry and wanted to reconnect, she messaged back and said sorry as well and we started talking. We had a good conversation, caught up on the other's life, and became friends on Facebook again. All is hunky dory now and my heart is a little fuller knowing we are friends again.
Even after I messed up big time, this wonderful friend forgave me. That's what true friendship is all about. None of us are perfect and please, if you've found someone who is, I would LOVE to meet them.
Admitting our faults is one of the first steps to overcoming them. I am an expert at over-reacting big time. I tend to do it more often than I'd like to admit. But with a little bit of honesty with me, myself, and I, I can quickly realize when I am being a bit of a butt and backtrack or rapidly apoligize.
I'm slowly getting better at not losing my cool so easily and am even starting to manage my emotions better. But what inspired this change? Well, I got married to start and my husband, being the most patient man ever wouldn't put up with my ridiculousness and helped me learn how to manage it. While Tyler inspired the change, I had to have the desire to make the change as well. With Tyler's help and lots of determination I was able to get to be where I am today. And it's only getting better.
If you need some help making changes in your life, I would be happy to try and help. Let me know!
